Couples and Families: Shared Rules That Reduce iPhone Screen Time (Without Starting Fights)
A practical “shared rules” guide for couples/families: set friction-based boundaries that reduce iPhone Screen Time and increase presence—without blame.
Key takeaways
- Talk about the rule when you’re calm, not during a violation.
- Phones park during meals (one shared spot).
- No phones in bed (charge outside the bedroom).
- One hour of “present time” daily (walk, talk, hobby).
- No scrolling during conversations (if you slip, you restart the conversation).
5 shared rules that actually reduce Screen Time
Pick 1–2 rules to start. Consistency beats intensity.
- Phones park during meals (one shared spot).
- No phones in bed (charge outside the bedroom).
- One hour of “present time” daily (walk, talk, hobby).
- No scrolling during conversations (if you slip, you restart the conversation).
- Add friction to the household’s top scroll apps (harder to open on autopilot).
How to avoid fights
Talk about the rule when you’re calm, not during a violation. Design beats debate.
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FAQ
What’s the best family rule for iPhone Screen Time?
No phones in bed and phones parked during meals. Those two rules remove the highest-frequency triggers.
How do we handle emergencies?
Keep essentials available. The goal is to reduce scroll apps, not block important communication.
Do shared rules work if one person isn’t motivated?
Start with a small rule that improves daily life (like meals). Small wins build buy-in.
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